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Real Talk About Relationships
Donna Broadway is a senior currently majoring in Creative Writing at Bowie State University. She is able to maintain an A average while working and being a student leader in several organization. Donna will graduate in May 2008 with plans of starting graduate school and a career in magazine writing. She can be reach at DtiaraB@hotmail.com The Everlasting Power Struggle“Your desire shall be for your husband, and he shall rule over you" Genesis 3:16 I wonder how many women just cringed over that scripture and how many men threw their hands up in victory. Men and women have been involved in an eternal power struggle. Men believe that they have the right to rule over the household in an authoritarian way and many women would prefer to walk away before giving their power to a man. The word submit brings about numerous debates and many men sleeping in the guest room or on the couch, but this is only a misunderstanding. When God created Eve, she was created from Adam’s rib, not a piece of his skull or a toe, but a rib. This shows that men and women are meant to walk side by side not servant and master. Everyone submits in marriage. Men submit to the needs of their wives and the household and women submit to their husband’s leadership. Black women have been oppressed for hundreds of years and we are not looking to be oppressed by our husbands but we have to break sometime. We, as women, have to be strong to handle all of our responsibilities, but we cannot be so strong that we treat our men like sons. Submitting does not mean we jump every time he says jump but it means trusting your husband and just saying “okay, baby.” If your man makes a mistake, comfort him, don’t degrade him. Men, just because you are the head of your households does not mean that you are the king. It means that it is your job to protect and provide for your family. Also, you still must consult with your wife about your decisions and listen to her feedback. You are partners. Think about marriage as you would a business. Have you ever known a business to succeed where the owner was constantly bickering with employees or customers? It’s impossible for a business to be successful when there is no communication and understanding. You must understand the needs of your customers. In a marriage you must understand the needs of your spouse. Life is too short to engage in this power struggle. Previous Articles |
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